Hi everyone. Thanks
for checking out our blog #OrmanAdventures. You know, over the past 4 years we
have been through many ups and downs. It’s all part of the adventure we call
life, right? I can honestly say that most of the time here has been full of joyful
memories… but when the bad days come in, they come in HARD!
Homesickness is a very
real thing I’ve had to deal with while living in Korea. It’s strange because I’m
very close with my family and even though I love them to bits, I have NEVER
been the type of person to feel homesick.
Whenever they’d drop
me off at a friend’s house it was like, “okay, bye!!” and off into the house I’d
go. I would go to sleepovers when I was little and sometimes girls would have
to leave in the middle of the night because they were homesick. Huh?? I had no
idea what that felt like.
Even when I left for
college, 6-7 hours away from my family, I never felt homesick. I was too busy with
excitement and enjoying life to the fullest.
Then came South Korea.
Oh boy…
At first, I thought I
would be fine. There is Skype nowadays and Facebook (which I’m extremely
thankful for), but after a year of living here… I started to develop this very
odd feeling. I wasn’t sure if it was mood swings, depression, maybe I was
bi-polar… and then my husband mentioned the word “homesick.” I bursted into
tears and I couldn’t believe how much truth was in that one word.
Before I left for my
visit home a few weeks ago, I’d have days that would be going totally fine.
Then, all of a sudden WHAM!!! Life threw a curve-ball and I’d start crying… then
cry even more because I would start to think about how much I miss my family. Especially
how much I miss the fact that I’m not home to build a strong relationship with my
niece and nephew. There were times where Cory would do/say something so small
and it would send me in a spiral of emotions, leaving me with a reaction that
was far more dramatic than necessary. Luckily and thank GOD, my husband knows
my heart. He knew it was never about the small argument… it was something
greater. It was the fact that my batteries were running low from home.
I know my family isn’t
perfect, and no family is for that matter, but when I am around them I am
comfortable. I missed the simple things like sipping tea with my mom and,
believe it or not, listening to all my dad’s corny jokes. There is just
something about home that makes you feel whole again.
A few months ago, it came
time for Cory and me to plan our summer vacation. We were set on going to Japan… and
that’s when more mood swings rushed in. We hadn’t seen our families in a year
and a half, and it was the most difficult thing to think about not seeing them
for a longer amount of time. Cory really started to pick up on my feelings (he’s
really good at that), and could sense that I wasn’t being myself. He brought up
the idea of me going home for a visit and him staying in Korea; we simply could
not afford two tickets. The thought of leaving him in Korea while I spent time
with my family left me with an abundant amount of guilty feelings. He’s giving
up his vacation for me?? But after carefully explaining his sincere thoughts on
how much I needed to go home, and how much it would benefit our relationship, I
knew he was right. He ended up buying the ticket for me because even though I knew
it was the right thing to do, I just couldn’t believe he was selflessly letting
me go home while he’d spend 2 very boring weeks in our apartment in Korea.
Anyway, it was time to
go home and what a joy that was!!! I have so many special memories to give me
that little boost when days get tough. I made sure to spend one on one time
with my mom, dad, and sister. That was something I was highly looking
forward to and now cherish. My favorite memory was when my niece, Leighann, ran
out of the car and into my arms when she saw me! I was so nervous that she
would be shy around me since I’d only met her once prior. She was not shy at ALL. That little girl was
my sidekick the entire time I was home. She just loved her “Chelle.” As well, I
met my nephew, Sawyer, for the very first time!! When I held him, he gave me a
little hug and my heart bursted! Singing him lullabies and having him fall
asleep on me filled my heart to max capacity.
Overall, home was
exactly what I needed. Now I am back in Korea and quite a few people have given
me compliments, which is always nice. “You look so happy! Wow, you’re so beautiful.
Your eyes are sparkling now! You have the sweetest smile” --- Those are a few
from just this week alone. I feel like going home has given me that extra boost
in my heart again. Through this experience, I’ve realized how much my family
AND Cory’s family has supported our journey from the beginning. They are
constantly cheering us on and saying how proud they are of us.
Walking around this
small Korean town these past few days, I’ve felt a deeper appreciation for our time here. My greatest hope through this entire journey is to hopefully
inspire someone else to step out of their comfort zone. With that, in order to
inspire others, I feel it’s necessary to be real with one another since leaving
your comfort zone isn’t always easy.
These are real feelings
I’ve felt, and sometimes it’s hard for me to share since everyone thinks of me
being a positive happy person ALL THE TIME. Quite honestly, it’s not a bad
thing to be known for… but it’s just not true...all the time. I have difficult days
too; very difficult. Just like everyone else.
If you’re reading this
and haven’t spoken to your family or a good friend in a long time, I challenge
you to call them or send them a message. Also, every moment you have with your family… please
don’t take it for granted: Pedicures with my mom, playing Frisbee with my dad,
shopping and talking about life with my sister, speaking to my brother in law
about community service, sharing giggles with my niece and nephew, and finally wrapping
my arms around my husband when coming back to Korea are all memories I will
hold onto forever.
God is so good.
He has filled me up with joy.
My heart is full.
xoxo, Michelle

